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Men In Arms: Gaming With That Special Guy

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I am a gamer through and through. Bred on Atari and Nintendo, I always have video games incorporated into my lifestyle. Playing them alone is fun and online co-op with friends is great, but nothing compares to chilling out on the sofa and decapitating zombies with that special guy.

On that first or second date when you go back to his place, you may wander into the living room to "poke around" for clues about his life: is he a secret serial killer, or maybe just a closet (or not-so-closet) nerd? If in that moment you happen to find game cases lying about or stacked neatly atop a Xbox 360, something really special happens: the gaymer connection. The understanding that this guy is passionate about video games. This broadens the experience, especially if he has the same tastes of games as you do. After a half-hour of gushing on tactics in Left 4 Dead 2 or your favorite strategy for surviving cougar attacks in Red Dead Redemption, this almost always leads to a gaming session and possibly some sexy fun.

I can tell you that even with the growing numbers of gaymers in the dating world it can still be a challenge to find that one person that you really jibe with and likes video games just as much as you do. I can count on one hand how many dates I have had with men whose eyes didn't roll into the back of their head when I rattled about my obsession with the Super Nintendo or the latest plot point in the Buffy Season Eight comics. So when you find someone who likes you and video games in tandem the real fun can begin! They say when you date a guy who is the same clothing size as you, you essentially double your wardrobe. The same is true of games. After the break I have listed some of the benefits of dating another hardcore gamer.

1. Add a console: double or triple your pleasure!

So you own an Xbox 360 and a PS3 but not a Wii and he owns a Wii but not the others. Score for both of you! Especially for sleepovers since consoles like the Wii are very transport friendly, throwing it into your trunk can make evenings at his place even more fun!

2. Add to your game and peripheral wardrobe!

Whether it be a copy of Super Street Fighter IV or a Playstation Eye he will no doubt have games or peripherals that you don't.. The merging of assets expands your gamer haven and strengthens your bond.

3. Memorabilia

I once dated a guy who had the entire back collection of Nintendo Power magazines that he had been collecting since his childhood. I squealed like a little girl when I saw the cover for the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles issue as my copy had long been ripped to shreds by an annoying kid sister. Dating a guy with a long history of gaming can unearth a treasure trove of gaming collectibles.

4. Tag Team Gaming

So you both just started a new game in Persona 3 Portable and he is still pimping out his characters is Final Fantasy XIII. Nothing compares to a duel grind session while cuddling on the sofa (mind out of the gutter boys!) with breaks from the level farming to share in story events. With this you can experience both games and spend some quality time together.

5. Hugs and Moral Support

Nothing is more brutal than getting owned by some enemy mob in Demon's Souls, so having the moral support and the occasional hug can help make those embarrassing moments more tolerable.

6. He knows exactly what you want

No more worries about your boyfriend signing you up for the mixed bag that is the Playstation Plus on your summer birthday. He will know you are watching the reviews and updates under a magnifying glass before deciding to join making the likelihood of receiving that sexy new black Wii very high.

7. Partnered Gaming Events

Nothing is more fun than having the boys over for a serious dish session followed by a Super Smash Brothers free for all. Rallying the troops and planning a party can be loads of fun and provide an easy way to introduce your new guy to all those nosy friends curious to see with whom you've been spending all this time. The mingling of both social groups will be easy breezy.

8. Cosplay is more fun with a partner!

Back in college my boyfriend and I went as the all male Team Rocket from that wacky Pokemon TV show. Sewing the costumes and painting pokeballs was more fun then I am willing to admit. Going to a con and sharing in the labor of making costumes can be a fun and eye opening experience and there is a camaraderie and solace in knowing he won't poke fun of your Master Chief and Zangief wrestling fan fiction fantasies.

Ultimately, finding that guy who shares in your gaming geekery is difficult. I have dated more frogs then princes and finding gamers in the top few is even rarer. But believe me, they are out there: ones who will make your Singstar score shine brighter and your headshots more plentiful! When you do find him you may find that dating a hardcore gaymer enhances your already hearty gaming lifestyle and also makes cuddling on the couch an all together amazing experience!

20 Comments

Husky said:

On the other hand you might also have trouble prying him away from the games to go somewhere with you.

Dust-tea-green said:

Haha- My boyfriend and I started playing games together really early in our relationship. I knew I had a winner when we decided to stay in one night and play N64 in our underwear, instead of going out dancing.

Dickie said:

Cute article! My husband isn't so much of a gamer, but it's very cute when he tries to be so that we can have gaming sessions together.

Feri Zsolnai said:

Couldn't agree more. :) My boyfriend is a Nintendo guy and I'm a Playstation guy and we bought the Xbox360 together and later on a PC for gaming.

the only bad thing is that we're both waiting for Final Fantasy XIV but as it seems now we won't be able to play it together, because the PS3 version will come out months later than the PC version. :(

but you should see us when he plays Age of Conan while I'm playing Final Fantasy XII in the same room. :)

Tebeau23 said:

:) what a cute article! Now only if my best friend would turn gay! >:/

For realz :)

LordoftheAvenue said:

My boyfriend bought a PS3 and started on Lego Batman, only to clock it in 85 hours. His first videogame. Now he's on to Lego Star Wars... I'm so proud.

Richard said:

WHY I LOVE THIS ARTICLE:

Aside from the gay puns, LGBT related banner ads & suggestive close-up shots of Solid Snake in his battlefield jockstrap, gaygamer is just another base station for gaming information. But along comes this personal article that steps away from the demo booth & reminds us why this site is here (& queer) & with a real purpose.

To be gay in this world today doesn't come without its struggles. To be gay & a gamer - you'd think we are gluttons for textual abuse & constant barrages of in-game over-mic attacks. We had no choice in being apart of the gay community. So why do we choose to be apart of the gaming community? Because, damnit, we are gaymers & we had no choice in that matter either.

I didn't choose to play Mario Bros. Mario chose me. From the first time I realized princess was in another castle, to my first treasure chest opening to reveal the compass, I knew I belonged here. My thumbs were built for directional pads & A, B, buttons.

Sure, I could go to ign, gamefaqs or zeropunctuation for game reviews (& I do), but they are all missing a tiny human element that, through no fault of their own, makes me feel like I don't really belong at the site. Why should I have to sift through the sophomoric comments & pretend I don't see 'faggot' every fifteenth word & pretend it doesn't bother me? I don't have to. I have gaygamer. It's not an exclusive club that caters only to those 'boys who like boys who like joysticks.' It's reflective of my own morals & views. It's the simple act of acceptance.

This article is a reminder of why we should be proud of who & what we are. It's a reminder that we get to experience something that the straight gamers most likely never will. To enjoy the thrill of gaming & bonding over the excitement of capturing the flag or control point as a team & to be able to love the person who's always got our virtual & physical back. The straight gamers may bond & 'love' the virtual team they choose to play with weekend after weekend, but thats the extent of their emotional connection with their gaming buddies. They'll never know what it can feel like to truly love the man that sits next to you on the couch, who shares the same passion for gaming that you thought only you possessed.

The straight gamers may have been responsible for in-game tea-bagging & the character Kratos, but we are the real gay gamers in this world & we are proud of the joysticks we play with, both in-game & out.

I say with a heavy heart, thank you gaygamer.net, for just merely being here & existing. I couldn't ask for anything better.

Darq said:

Okay, you just described the last five years of my life and hopefully many many many years ahead...

Clearly, the merging of asset and resource makes gaming even more fun !
It's like we're getting everything half-priced...

Still we had to find creative ways and take turns for all these solo games but occasionnally some game makes playing together fun, like beat-em-alls (Marvel Ultimate Alliance 2 for instance...).

If you read this, "Hello sweetie" (catch the Dr Who reference here ?) !

- Dedicated to the love of my life

Sami said:

I can't imagine what it is like when two gaymers break up, though.

"You took my PSP, bitch!"

"Naw, I bought it to you so it's mine. But you better give back my GTA IV or I swear I'll..."

And so on. XD

Paz said:

I knew that my bf wasn't as big of a video gamer guy like me, but I just found out recently that my bf can play expert level on Rock Band. Now we rock to Lady GaGa all night.

Julian said:

Wow... haha actually my boyfriend and I are HUGE gamers!! He is the ONLY boyfriend I have ever had that plays games, much less gives me a challenge on a few of them!!

Lol a group of friend and I were talking about having a partner that is a huge gamer (gaymer lol) and wow it's just so fucking cool that him and me can kick it and play SSBB or Naruto Shippuuden: CoNR3, and even taunt each other as to who has better Pokemon in the DS games.

I am lucky and glad we can have fun just staying home and playing games co-op or versus and discussing games haha it's so fucking awesome!!

Julian said:

Wow... haha actually my boyfriend and I are HUGE gamers!! He is the ONLY boyfriend I have ever had that plays games, much less gives me a challenge on a few of them!!

Lol a group of friend and I were talking about having a partner that is a huge gamer (gaymer lol) and wow it's just so fucking cool that him and me can kick it and play SSBB or Naruto Shippuuden: CoNR3, and even taunt each other as to who has better Pokemon in the DS games.

I am lucky and glad we can have fun just staying home and playing games co-op or versus and discussing games haha it's so fucking awesome!!

Tuck said:

Re: Feri Zsolnai

I am bummed about FFXIV for exactly the same reason! Dammit SE! We want to give you $30 a month. Please let us!

The Hume (by any other name) coverguy is so hot.

g_whiz said:

You have just described the ideal 2nd date in every way except including some lame box wine and take out. I think I might cut and paste this article and put it on whatever dating-site-du jour I'm on. :)

Ray said:

I absolutely love this article. It is totally about me and my fiance. He and I have been together almost 4 years now and we always enjoy playing our video games together. We're actually in the middle of Super Mario Galaxy 2 right now. We always play Marvel games together. And action games like God of War and Heavenly Sword and Ratchet and Clank. He really enjoys Resident Evil and Tomb Raider games while I'm obsessed with Final Fantasy. I especially loved the part where he mentions Buffy Season 8, as we are totally obsessed with Buffy and can't wait for the last arc of Season 8 to get published.
So I can personally attest to the fabulousness that this article speaks of. It IS truly wonderful. :)

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hossay said:

This is cute:) I always wanted to date a gaymer hahaa

SpiderGuy said:

This is one of the best articles I've read on here before. I thought I was one of the few people that ever thought the things that were mentioned in this article, and my heart was actually warmed by this. Makes me hopeful yet again for the day when I find another gaymer. =)

Jeremy said:

Now I'm depressed. :( I want a boyfriend to game with.

And girls who like girls who like rumble packs!

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